Choices

If you're gonna follow the same course then don't be surprised when you're pushed through the same door

If you're gonna follow the same goals, don't be in awe when you're pushed through the same holes

You've got choices- the masses have their minds consumed by the same matters

Be it fads, or iPods, or iPads

It's the never ending structure of follow the leader

Our biggest enemy is ourselves; preyed upon by the devils plot, we're in need of help

The deception is to downgrade the lesson: his weapon is to pretend its 'okay' due to majority's say

The soul is fragile - need to contemplate and constantly search for the right way 

Two headed python destined to bite the neglectful's cheeks (zakaat)

We spend years trying to secure our worldly home

Neglecting the duty to He - who it's owed (Hajj)

What are we so busy chasing, I wonder?

Does it really add worth to our existence  or are we zombies with the false illusion we're being useful?

Unaware we're herded in our slumber

The believer traded it up

This life and all its fake glory

For true existence - for the beginning of our story

Seeds

I teach my sons the life of this world ain't measured in sums. I tell 'em one plus one ain't how its done. There's no fixed equation for duty - that it's just a matter of giving it up, and moving responsibly. I teach my sons the life of this world is only passed by with piety - if trying to be completed successfully. But with lies you'll kill all chances, just making faith a mockery. I tell 'em the root of evil is the selfish equation, one that goes "i + i = lies to get by" . I push 'em to see light in their capacity, not to underestimate themselves as 'too young' to do good. Wondering when will I learn what I'm hoping they've understood. I remind them of words in constant repetition , the promise of heaven for those who do "righteous good deeds". Then I question, how hard can it be? I mean after I get a house, car, some savings, college tuition, vacation and maybe a lil extra to feel free, then yeah, for sure I'll give more. The disillusion of time, the game of "getting what's mine". This lil rat race we're in just to keep face. No one can tell me they're truly happy and at peace, when 9-5 they hustle, then spend to feel at ease yet hardly able to attain the comfort they're trying to achieve. Why reinvent the wheel for success and happiness? How'd we get so arrogant to think we've got the solution to our ever sought after need for rest? I teach my sons this life is a test, to elevate and strive as strangers; those who were the best. To live without lies, or a false sense of security by the wealth we surround ourselves in daily. To let it go, as that is the seed from which goodness grows. I teach my sons so I can have the strength to sow my own, so I will be forced to grow. For without effort I may never truly come to know. I teach my sons, the reality of the world we live in , means before our Lord we are alone standing. So hold tight to the coal, for it's a lighter burning. 

Among the Believers

Our personal opinions aren't indicative of what's right or the truth

The plot of Satan is clearly stated in The Book

With sincere belief comes understanding

It's not an option to pick and choose - this ain't about what others are commanding

The opportunity rests in our choice to rise to the test

Too many of us are picking and choosing in a religion where truth protects us from losing

Whether we can comprehend or not, the obligation is to accept and not defend our own views or weaknesses : that's the devil's slot

We're all created with short-comings, the difference is admitting the error in ourselves and not pointing fingers 

The understanding is we'll never reach perfection, as it's beyond our capacity  

The road is paved with humility - striving towards the Pleasure of only He

That cannot be done when we deceive ourselves in rejecting truth that has clearly come

Nor denying evidence  - There's no room for discrepancy 

Regardless of where our faith lies today,it's the moment of now where we can increase towards better days, firmer ways (Insha'Allah)

I speak to me before I speak to you

I'm reminding me that I need to step up before I'm left empty

This is our life - we stand alone

If we choose to reject truth, we face the consequence when our soul finally goes home

Amazing lecture that sums it all up!!

We Are HOW We SEE!

When did we get to a point where we stopped envisioning happiness

It seems everything that comes our way is approached with, 'what would happen if..'

All too concerned about the " I" , instead of the 'We'

Not so concerned about how we can make it better

More worried about how it'll benefit ourselves otherwise it's like "see ya later"

Critics by default

Always fishing for the first fault

Not trying to see light at the end of the tunnel

Happiness sometimes isn't wrapped in the expected bundle 

Many times the best blessings are disguised 

Comes from taking a "risk" by giving up yourself despite feeling it's a slip

Sometimes, many times the greatest high within is achieved by giving 

It's not easy to grasp, unless you learn to let go of the fears you hold tight to 

It's a little like the concept of 'the truth will set you free'  

It's understanding what's meant to be shall be

Our reality is merely a matter of perception: it can be blurred by our negative reflection or it can be our light by positive contemplation

The easy fix comes from the mind

Altered thoughts -  so powerful it can give vision to the blind

No exaggeration  - loss is only how we choose assume things will affect our life

It's really not all that bad if we turn dark to light by choosing our sight ...

This is deep - point to reflect upon

Mufti Ismail Menk

The small minded will take our words wrongly; the evil minded will go out of their way to misinterpret them. It happens to revelation too.

'MAN'

Disclaimer: I express my own sincere observations: not a proven statistical study or an in depth analytical form of data. A mere over generalization of what sometimes is/could be. The objective remains to ignite thought not blame or make a baseless argument against any racial background.

 

Society is riddled with stereo-types, be it the ideals of a female, the social standard of a people , or the issue at hand - the "alpha male". This concept of who and what a man should be has been muddled in a mix of confusion such that the male prototype we see among us is only further and further from what "a man" used to to be.

 

There's this unspoken social pressure, probably predominately among the African-American/Latino males to be 'A MAN'. Much of all propaganda from the streets and their basic social arena produces a expressive man who's 'talk game is tight', normally has taken up some sort of physical training ; weight training, martial arts, etc and if not that he'll have some form of physical aggression to show for it. This man is socially classified as 'a man' based on his financial reach, his physical capacity and his ability to get with women.  Any short-comings that can be picked on in these departments are normally compensated or maybe just masked by the 'EGO'; a full fledged "man, you ain't seen nothin' " type talk. If not the use of the 'ego', an extensive educational background which too can and will be mocked by those who are labelled 'the haters'. The pressure seems so overwhelming that in this quest to fulfill, we find the standard of everything that was classified as a man back in times of our grandfather, a time when people fought for survival and not for ego, appears to be almost non-existent. I believe this "ideal" stems from the urgency of circumstances that women were dealt with. From the time of slavery the homes of African-American people were torn - with injustice came the constant need to fight for basic freedom. It produced a man determined to "get his", to go out in the big bad world with all the might, power and talk he can muster. And he did just that! The women folk found herself holding it down while he was busy trying to make a way for his family. In the midst of it all, he lost his way as the glamor of society can and will eat you up, that and his need to be with the family no longer seemed to be required. She, well .....she did her best - she kept fighting, keeps fighting, and now limits the respect towards a man to the extent he yearns to be respected. It's the back and forth, she cannot let her guard down for fear of proven irresponsibility on his part by what was once a noble endeavor, which has now been  a means of the female to justify her actions. And he? He doesn't want to be home because he's had enough disrespect from his forefathers 'masters', walking his ground with the notion  'a man at least can feel a man in some realm of his world'. The result? Children are now their own role models. They motivate each other within their own capacity of limited understanding and the use of a highly saturated industry invested in calling the youth to 'be a star', capture the world, live it up, and let it all go: the entertainment industry. In the midst of children's parental guidance fighting for the power to control children freely take their youth in their own hands. It's just a matter of who and what form of influence will greet them first..

 

On the other spectrum within North America we see the Caucasian mix of individuals who are plagued with their own form of finding a connect - where their social standard encourages a greater sense of emotional compatibility rather than physical or financial security. A 'good man' is defined as "good" by his ability to connect with his emotional side. So much so that  the closer his emotions coincide with that of his female counterpart the more attractive he becomes. As the man described digs into his estrogen side of life it leads to a problematic extremity; he loses the the very essence of his manliness. His days are not filled with the the need to protect his family but rather an array of tonics for hair and acne treatment, or talk of diapers and laundry. He finds himself getting comfortable in a role that was at one point not designed for a man and now he stays home with the children and the wife goes to work. The result.....somewhat of chaos. Not because he doesn't handle his home, perhaps he pulls it off better than his partner but the role reversal seems to be leading to overly sensitive men and overly aggressive women. The result? Children are unsure of where they stand. A man no matter how hard he tries cannot be a female or relate the same way. The core values and discipline a mother would give her child does not rear through the father, whom often over looks the finer details through the perception of the male mind. Thus, the art of nurturing character in children is no longer in play. As the male mind looks at life from the broader sense, a father does not waste time dwelling on the 'small things' as it part of their nature which I believe was designed to serve and protect their family. At the same time the female overwhelms herself in the big wide world where she finds herself in the position of constantly having to prove herself. Being that her mind functions as a female  (ie. sensitive to her surroundings focusing on the finer details that block routes to the corporate ladder) she too becomes stressed and unnecessarily burdened in attempts to cope. For the most part, this does not provide the structural compatibility of a functional, calm home environment - a destructive concoction for the familial social structure.

 

In some way, shape or form if we observe the men around us in North America there is an unprecedented change...it simply cannot go unnoticed. Either he's too much of a man or too much of a woman, therefore both harboring extreme concepts of the role and the responsibilities of  'a man'. No longer reflecting the tradition sense of masculinity. The word "gentleman" is more of a British term than anything else. Chivalry is non-existent unless one considers making minimum payments a form of manners. The idea of protecting and defending ones family from the on-slaught of the never ending slanderers we all have to face from time to time, or the odd situation of an act of belligerence from random strangers etc is also no longer in tact. It's either the female will roll up her sleeves and get her dukes up or a man will pull out 'his piece' ; metal protection that keeps his insecurities concealed.

 

Forms of insecurities within ourselves come out in the oddest ways. I feel the core of the issue lies within our own selves - it is the inability to recognize ourselves. Why?.... Simply because every cultural setting is living up to some standards of 'the Jones'. There's the constant battering of having to feel inadequate if one does not fulfill the unspoken expectations that our social circles call us towards. Little by little, piece by piece what we knew as the 'norm' cannot and will not be visible at all. A new norm will form, often one that isn't a conscious decision made by individual themselves, but a cry to fit in and be 'the best' ........though the results may not be the best. I see a potential means to abase such a phenomenon in attempting to strip down all the 'talk', and take our own lives back to basics, back to the point of purpose and find personal clarity. I firmly believe it is through contemplation of self and the world we live in that we can truly see the 'light at the end of the tunnel'. The pressure of having to live up to something else slowly dies down, and the purpose of self merges into the best man that can be, A MAN.. the one that knows why he does what he does, and does it knowing that he is THE MAN, regardless of who's looking!

Faults we have - beautify them with righteous good deeds!

Assim Alhakeem

There aren’t people who are flawless and without shortcomings. We are all sinners and this is human nature! However, there are people who are good in presenting their good features and concealing their faults. This hides that! Therefore, try to submerge your faults in an ocean of good deeds and kindness to others. Allah says: “Verily, the good deeds remove the evil deeds”.

S-Class

They don't c'aul it S-Class fo nutin

Upgrade upon purchase you'll be stutterin' 

Wondering how you got an S600

When you thought you'd just invested a few hundred

Sometimes you don't realize the worth

Until you learn to understand true value and unearth

Dig up tha mentality, realize a Hijabi is wrapped in modesty

She ain't puttin on a show for the world to know

Reserved for her's truly; her beauty she owns

Takes depth and insight to understand beauty lies in the right

Takes wisdom and maturity to realize a woman is best when she submits only to He

It's the battle of the fittest

Have Weed Man spray off the weakest

He who inhales the same toxins become part of the same sickness

Be it a he or a she

The soil that bears our future progeny 

Requires pure hands to remain organic and pesticide free

It's a balanced union you see

Working towards the same destiny creates harmony

Any deficiency in one will either corrupt the other or produce nothing further

Quality appears to be undefined in society

So I say, 'S-Class' remains marked by true sincerity 

As this is the foundation of real piety 

.. And Allah Knows Best!

Whose Sight?

How many stand tall with their ranks and glories?

Proud of their stripes, color belts, or titles - it's the same story

The position of man raised but in whose sight?

Where's our aim, I question, are we on the right?

Ain't nothing wrong with having goals

Problem comes when it remains the main source pushing our soul

And all it gives us is a moment to be told

How will we stand on The Day?

Where's the stripes, color belts or titles we so proudly displayed?

How'd it disappear so fast on the only day that's worthy to be relayed

We've got gold tagging us on our wrist 

Reminding us of the time we've missed

Medals resting on our chest

False illusion that we've passed our test

Or rings pressed upon our fingers

Bling so big , yet we still striving for bigger

How many stand tall with their ranks and glories

Proud of their stripes, color belts or titles - it's the same story 

Trying to make a mark in the temporary

Only to turn back and find we lost track 

Keep it focused, whether it's in the office, or on the mat

It's not about haters who hate

It's about earning our fate

Establishing rank for our eternal state!

One Third

I don't think we suffer from a lack of knowledge

Despite the fact that learning goes deeper than the depth of an ocean

I don't think we live in a time where removing "ignorance" is the actual solution

Too many words in written text, and spoken language

But not many steps towards applying and growing 

The purpose of knowledge is not mental exhaustion

It's uplifting the deflated sense of purpose and self

It's elevating action to include the world and it's strife

One third self, one third family, one third humanity

The perfect equation for balance and success

The path of moderation means learning is only the first step

Thereafter comes an intention: the plan

Last part is the execution: the action

We don't live in a time where knowledge is scarse

We live in a time where hearts are bear

The minimum is our maximum

And beyond that it becomes suicidal or Prozac viable 

Too much "self" and too little of "who else?"

There's more to life than 9-5, board games and self invested cries

We need to rise above this need to be "something"

And aim to be giving, for our purpose dictates such

.... It's so easy to be distracted by our "to do" list

Our personal check lists

Yet the reality of our condition remains, we are on a waiting list...

My thoughts in one neat 'lil package... may it be my reality,Ameen!!

Are we doing it for Allah?...

Shaykh Abdullah Hakim Quick

Quote: "Perhaps a great deed is belittled by an intention. And perhaps a small deed, by a sincere intention, is made great." (Abdullah Ibn Mubarak)

"Never underestimate the importance of intentions. When the Muslims of Al Andalus (Spain), desired to please Allah , they had the greatest cities on earth and when they desired materials and pleasures, they were destroyed. The choice is in front of us today. May Allah help us to choose Justice in this world and the Paradise in the Hereafter."

Follow the TRUTH!

" So whatever is true, even though a minority of the people or no one is upon it – so long as it is the truth – it must be adhered to, for indeed it is salvation."

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The Majority is Not a Proof that Something is Correct – Shaikh Saalih Al-Fawzan (hafidhahullaah)

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Bismillaah Al-Hamdulillaah wa salatu wa salaamu ‘ala rasulullaah
Amma ba’d

The Majority is not a Proof, by Shaikh Saalih Al-Fawzan (hafidhahullaah) *

From the characteristics of the people of the Days of Ignorance is that they would view the majority as proof that something was true and the minority as proof hat something was false. So according to them, whatever the majority of the people was upon, that was the truth. And whatever the minority was upon, that was not the truth. In their eyes, this was the balance used to determine truth from falsehood.

However, this is wrong, for Allah says: And if you obey most of those on earth, they will mislead you far away from Allah’s path. They follow nothing but conjecture, and they do nothing but lie.[Surah Al-An'aam, ayah 116]

And He says: But most of mankind doesn’t know. [Surah Al-A'raaf, ayah 187]

And He says: And most of them We found to be not true to their covenant, but most of them We found indeed to be evil sinners. [Surah Al-A'raaf, ayah 102]

So the balance is not the majority and the minority. Rather, the balance is the truth. So whoever is upon the truth – even if he is by himself – he is the one who is correct and deserves to be emulated. And if the majority of the people are upon falsehood, then it is obligatory to reject them and not be deceived by them. So consideration is given to the truth. This is why the scholars say: “Truth is not known by way of men, but rather men are known by way of the truth.” So whoever is upon the truth, then he is the one we must follow and emulate.

In Allaah’s stories about the prior nations, He informs us that it is always the minority that is upon the truth, as Allah says: And no one believed with him except for a few. [Surah Hood, ayah 40]

And in a hadeeth in which the nations were presented to the Prophet, he (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said that he saw a prophet who had a small group of followers with him, and a Prophet who had a man or two men following him, and another Prophet who had no one with him. (Sahih Al-Bukhari).

So consideration is not given to which opinion or view has the most followers. Rather, consideration is given to its being either true or false. So whatever is true, even though a minority of the people or no one is upon it – so long as it is the truth – it must be adhered to, for indeed it is salvation. Falsehood is not aided by the fact that it has a majority of people following it – ever. This is a determining measure that the Muslim must always abide by.

The Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said:
“Islam began strange and it will return back to being strange as it began.” (Saheeh Muslim)

This will occur at the time when evil, calamities and misguidance increase. So no one will remain upon the truth except for the strange ones amongst the people and those who extract themselves from their tribes (for the sake of their religion). They will become strangers in their society.

The Messenger (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) was sent while the whole world was submersed in disbelief and misguidance. And when he called the people, only one or two answered his call. It was only until later on that they grew to be many. The tribe of Quraish, not to mention the whole of the Arabian Peninsula and the whole world, was upon misguidance. And the Messenger of Allaah (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) was the only one calling the people. So those who followed him were few with respect to the entire world.

So consideration is not given to the majority. Consideration is only given to what is correct and to achieving the truth. Yes, if the majority of the people are upon correctness, then that is good. However, the way of Allaah is that the majority of the people is always upon falsehood.

And most of mankind will not believe even if you desire it eagerly. [Surah Yoosuf, ayah 103]

And if you obey most of those on earth, they will mislead you far away from Allah’s path. They follow nothing but conjecture, and they do nothing but lie. [Surah Al-An'aam, ayah 116]

* [In his sharh (explanation) of Imam Muhammad ibn 'Abdul-Wahhab's (rahimahullaah) statement: From the greatest of their principles was that they would be deluded by the majority, using that to determine the correctness of a matter. They would also determine the falsehood of something if it was strange and that its adherents were few. So Allaah brought them the opposite of that, clarifying this in many places of the Qur`an.]

Source: Sharh Masaa’il-ul-Jaahiliyyah (pg. 60-62) of Shaikh Muhammad ibn ‘Abdul-Wahhab (rahimahullaah), via al-Ibaanah.

Al Fudayl ibn ‘Iyyad (rahimahullaah) said:

Upon you is the path of guidance and don’t worry about the few people on it. And beware of the path of misguidance, and don’t be deceived by the many people [on it].

http://salaf-us-saalih.com/2011/05/21/the-majority-is-not-a-proof-that-something-is-correct/

FIRE

The army of the Shayateen are getting stronger

It's no wonder, the sins of man are getting deeper

Jinn travelling through men, like blood through veins

Penetrating the mind every time they sit like zombies; controlling their brains

Ejecting itself within the physical, when sins become typical 

It's an easy win, when man sits like waiting ducks - we're our own hypocritical

Time wasted, I'm first to admit to this

Thereafter in our laze whispers become part of our days

If we don't fight it, eventually we succumb to it

This is why controlling the mind is half the battle

The other half is using time wisely - we're being herded like cattle

The day will come when we all point fingers

The devil will deny every allegation

Saying he had no control or power over our being, except he called and we went crawling

Back to our lowly desires

Searching for ease upon ease, until neglect sinks in and we're surrounded by our fires

We're against an army who has finally gained their momentum

But victory always comes to the believers, except how many of us are truly believing?

We're weak, falling, slipping, drowning in our self contained deceit

Ya Allah SAVE US!!.. show us the path to our seat.. 

Ya Allah let us be a witness to Wahj Allah

Ya Allah strengthen us, make us firm, ya Allah Protect us, Guide us, and do not test us hard for we are weak...Ameen 

Dr. Bilal Philips via Facebook Status Update :

The evil of minor sins when gathered can destroy the perpetrator as the Prophet (saw) said: “Beware of the scorned sins for they are like a people who encamp in open land…” He will continue to make the minor sins seem trivial until he ignores them until one doing a major sin but afraid of it becomes better than him

Every human has an individual Jinn accompanying him referred to as a Qareen (i.e. companion). This is a part of man’s test in this life. The Jinn encourage his lower desires and constantly try to divert him from righteousness. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم) referred to this relationship as follows, “Every one of you has been assigned a companion from the Jinn.” The companions asked: “Even you, O Messenger of Allaah?” And the Prophet replied: “Even me, except that Allaah has helped me against him and he has submitted. Now he only tells me to do good.”
(Muslim)

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Changing the Discourse on Islamic Personal Finance

http://muslimmatters.org/2013/02/18/changing-the-discourse-on-islamic-personal-finance/

There is no discourse in our communities about Islamic personal finance. None.

When we discuss Islamic finance at conferences, classes, dinner parties, and gatherings with friends, it's always the same. Which company did you use to buy your house? Is buying a car on 0% halal or not?

The problem with those discussions is that they ignore the stark reality of personal finance faced by many families and individuals. Before I get to the point of even buying a house, how much should I have saved? What percentage of my monthly income is reasonable for a house payment?

Before even that step, there should be consideration for things like how to make a budget for your household. How do you get out of debt?

As I've personally delved into reading about personal finance, I've come to realize this aspect of education is missing from our communities. We're content to discuss terms like “musharakah” and “murabahah” and “ijaara” but we have yet to figure out a way to make higher education without student loans a reality for the majority of our ummah.

What is the point of a husband and wife buying a house through a halal mortgage, if they're going to fight every month about how to spend the money they make?

While we educate ourselves on the fiqh of things such as a woman's right to her own wealth, the responsibility of a husband to provide, and so on – we overlook the nuts and bolts that are required to run a household. How do a husband and wife figure out where their money is going? How do they resolve disagreements about what to spend money on? How do they prioritize their spending? How do they make sure they have a realistic plan to save for things like hajj?

How does an individual plan ahead for expenses such as buying a car, or dealing with home repairs without having to rely on a credit card as their emergency fund?

The reality is, while we are an educated ummah – both secularly and religiously – we tend to have a false sense of confidence when it comes to finances. Many households are struggling with debts – student loans, car payments, credit card payments, furniture purchases, computer purchases, and sometimes even a mattress payment of $10 a month stretched out over a few years.

It's time we reassess our attitudes toward finance and gain control of our wealth. Changing the discourse on finance allows us to learn how to budget – which tells us both how we earn our money, and where we spend our money. We cannot account for this in the Hereafter if we have no idea where our money goes now.

Our community also needs to change the discourse when it comes to debt. We've let society make us think that debt is a tool, something we leverage. If the recession and collapse of the banking industry haven't taught us that this is playing with fire, at the least we should heed the warnings in our own sacred texts about staying away from debt. Our communities need proper financial counseling and help to get individuals and families out of debt.

Please also check out a series from our archives on debt and money management: Intro | Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 | Part 4 | Part 5 | Part 6

As we work to change this discourse, we'd like to hear your stories.

Have you ever been in debt? How much debt?

What did it feel like to be in debt?

Have you been in debt and gotten out of it? How much debt did you have, and how did you pay it off? 

Beautiful Reminder!

Ponder

Assim Alhakeem

A scholar once said: The greatest grief and the biggest calamity is finding our happiness and comfort when we sin and disobey Allah!

"Broken Home"

I'm going re-define "broken home"

Often it's a label that comes pasted on the child that doesn't have both mother and father, side by side

I don't think that's a fair description

Call it denial but here's my definition 

A home without mom and dad together

By default doesn't result in broken forever

It just means a little more effort needs to go in

A little more love and a little less judging

My own three have both mother and father

Both loved by their own just on different levels

There is no such thing as ex-father, just ex-husband

If the man shows love to his capacity 

And the mother reinforces the concept of his love for the child's unity

Then by His Grace the young will not be "broken"

The home is not broken merely because two could not see eye to eye

The home is broken when there's neglect on either side

I make a point in raising mine to understand they are loved strong on both sides

A parent does great injustice to throw their children in the midst of their childish fights

Innocence should not be in the mix of peoples emotions, anger and the like

Leave the child out - let them grow up knowing and seeing what's right

So yes, on that note I say this with certainty....my children don't come from a  broken home

They come from love, faith, rules, play and garden of support for them to grow (Alhamdulilah)

My children don't live the ideal I grew up with, but that doesn't mean love is any less

Nor does it mean their mental state will be filled with stress

No... I refuse to accept that mentality

By the Will of the Almighty, they will grow up responsible, loving, encompassed by piety

"Broken" is forged by dysfunction, whether together or not

If there's no peace or love in the home, there's anger and hurt - that's the creation of 'broken'

Perception is our reality...

For me, I choose to see it differently

It's Upto You

Everyone goes through their ups and down

The cycle of any relationship entails that some days walls will be hit

Doesn't mean they're locked doors, steel roofs , barred and hammered shut

No, that's only the response to the hurt at its peak and ego making you weak

It's easy to shut out, it's never easy to let in

It takes the heart to soften and the soul to understand the real 'win'

Not everything is meant to last, not everything is good for you

But somethings just take time, and somethings are a direct result of what we do or don't do

It's really a matter of priority and goals

I don't suppose it's the best situation if the one you're with is walking a different path than you

But I do say, it'll take time before that's determined

When it's clear then whatever you do becomes an easier move

But when you're battling your own insecurities, weakness and level of arrogance

You'll find no matter your move, you'll be broken in two

Every relationship goes through it's up and downs

That's how we build castles - one brick at a time

When we mess up; it takes knocking it down to start it up again

Construction needs cooperation; one lays the cement, the other places the brick

It's upto you if you want it to be made of gold and silver

Or if you're fine with rock and mud

Either way, roles will always differ

But the idea is that each job supports one another

In the end, we're designed to preserver

Eventually you'll realize wallowing in your own anger or emotional clatter, only makes you the loser...