Thursday, December 29, 2011

Money doesn't talk ... it just whines

At what point did we get it all so confused?
Instead of money being a source of assistance
It has become a source of our existence
What would be the sense in creating for the purpose of maintaining?
Surely our purpose isn't to secure such a temporary fortress?
There has to be more to this....
Yet we run in rings chasing our tails
Making an effort yet we continue to fail
For our duty and our mission remains simply through Submission
To Him who Created us from dust, said "BE" and it is
The One Alone, not in need anything, Aware of everything
But still this knowledge, this truth, some how keeps getting twisted
The whispers that are whispered keep enticing us to invest in our lusts
Foolish enough even when God PROMISES an increase we plan our own decrease
Just doesn't make any sense
Wealth is gifted not attained
Wealth is released for purpose in due measure to ensure we are saved
Tested through the dollar or lack of;  just means we need to let go and submit
Does it really matter? If He Provides what's all the clatter?
Our role remains that we make an effort our goal proclaims that we rely solely on He who is Perfect

"Do they not know that Allah enlarges the provision for whom He wills, and straitens it (for whom He wills). Verily, in this are signs for the folk who believe!" Quran 39:52

Monday, December 26, 2011

It's gotta go back to basics
Take it all off, drop it all down
Quit the races
It's rooted in you; with pure intentions guidance is found
People after one another
Nit picking, thumb flicking, air stinking
It's an open mouth, in a drought
Trying to be replenished but you've got your thoughts caught with the devil
Trying to understand, truth in your effort reflects your stance
And it all goes back down to basics
Every question, every reply will come from simplicity , with a tear in your eye
It's really all that simple
But the devil takes his seat upon every lying victim
That's our social standing we're all caught up in the corrupt system
Morality lost , ethics comes last and our understanding of life and death is mismatched
Trying to balance this extreme perception
So even at our finest we're weakened in our own deception
We excuse our stagnation
Blame our inability to keep up with our natural inclination
Shame over shameless ...
Need I remind us
Social change remains a reflection
If we don't have it right inside it's gonna be tight outside
But we won't ever piece the puzzle
Until we realize the basics rule our lives
And if we just focus our energy on correcting and implementing truth will be clear and will easily turn away the stench of falsehood as it's fermenting
....... yah, there I go venting ..
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On the authority of Aboo `Abdillaah an-Nu`maan the son of Basheer (radiAllaahu 'anhumaa), who said: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) say:

That which is lawful is clear and that which is unlawful is clear, and between the two of them are doubtful matters about which many people do not know. Thus he who avoids doubtful matters clears himself in regard to his religion and his honour, but he who falls into doubtful matters [eventually] falls into that which is unlawful, like the shepherd who pastures around a sanctuary, all but grazing therein. Truly every king has a sanctuary, and truly Allaah's sanctuary is His prohibitions. Truly in the body there is a morsel of flesh, which, if it be whole, all the body is whole, and which, if it is diseased, all of [the body] is diseased. Truly, it is the heart.

Related by al-Bukhari and Muslim.

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

The Command to shun Shirk and lying -Ibn Kathir

Quran 22:30 That and whoever honors the sacred things of Allah, then that is better for him with his Lord. The cattle are lawful to you, except those (that will be) mentioned to you. So shun the Rijs of the idols, and shun false speech.

The Command to shun Shirk and Lying
Allah says:

So shun the Rijis of the idols, and shun false speech.
From this it is clear what Ar-Rijs means, i.e., avoid the abomination, which means idols. Shirk is mentioned in conjunction with false speech, as in the Ayah:

Say: "(But) the things that my Lord has indeed forbidden are;
  • Al-Fawahish (immoral sins) whether committed openly or secretly,
  • sins (of all kinds),
  • unrighteous oppression,
  • joining partners with Allah for which He has given no authority, and
  • saying things about Allah of which you have no knowledge''. (7:33)
This includes bearing false witness.
In the Two Sahihs it was reported from Abu Bakrah that the Messenger of Allah said:
أَ
Shall I not tell you about the worst of major sins?
We said, "Yes, O Messenger of Allah.''
He said: Associating others with Allah, disobeying one's parents.
He was reclining, then he sat up and said: and indeed giving false statements, and indeed bearing false witness...
and he kept on repeating it until we wished that he would stop.''
Imam Ahmad recorded that Khuraym bin Fatik Al-Asadi said,
"The Messenger of Allah prayed As-Subh (Al-Fajr), and when he had finished, he stood up and said:

Bearing false witness is on a par with the association of others with Allah.
Then he recited this Ayah: ...
So shun the Rijs of the idols, and shun lying speech. Hunafa' Lillah, not associating partners unto Him;
Allah says:

Hunafa' Lillah,
means, sincerely submitting to Him Alone, shunning falsehood and seeking the truth.
Allah says: not associating partners unto Him;
Then Allah gives a likeness of the idolator in his misguidance and being doomed and being far away from true guidance, and says: and whoever assigns partners to Allah, it is as if he had fallen from the sky,
meaning, the birds caught him in midair,for the wind had thrown him to a far off place.
means, remote and desolate, dangerous for anyone who lands there.

Hence it says in the Hadith of Al-Bara':
When the angels of death take the soul of the disbeliever in death, they take his soul up to the heaven, but the gates of heaven are not opened for him; on the contrary, his soul is thrown down from there.
Then he recited this Ayah.
The Hadith has already been quoted in our explanation of Surah Ibrahim.
Allah gives another parable of the idolators in Surah Al-An`am, where He says:

Say:
"Shall we invoke others besides Allah, that can do us neither good nor can harm us, and shall we turn back on our heels after Allah has guided us -- like one whom the Shayatin have made to go astray in the land in confusion, his companions calling him to guidance (saying): `Come to us.'''
Say: "Verily, Allah's guidance is the only guidance.'' (6:71)

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Thursday, December 15, 2011

Exaggerated State

How did exaggeration become so day-to-day?
I catch myself doing it, embedded into our daily speech
The phrases we say, like "I've done it a million times today?"
Really? No, not literally but that's how it ends up to be
What is, isn't actuality
Even within our own being it's a hard catch to see
How did truth get distorted so dangerously
Where we've said it so many times we're convinced it's part of our reality
Like, "I'm trying my best..."
Oh yah ...
If that's the case then you fail in patience for you just complained
For "my best" becomes an excuse; exaggerated and strained
Yet for some reason we're convinced
That amidst our test we should raise our flags and give up
The battle internally rages, it's fire fumes in stages
And instead of humbling ourselves we become engulfed in fluff
The fuzzy-ness that we choose to describe our state of mind
The exaggerated phrases and over the top lines
Keep us mentally deluded or in stress arrogance can find
I suffer no less than the rest in my confusion
Steps to reform I've been told come from acknowledgment and confession
Corrections greatest enemy is the concept of realization
So I question....... how did our speech become so loose?
Where did we come up with the phrases we use?
Does it reflect a reality or is it just what society will approve?
.........I question, come walk with me in this mental concession

Saturday, December 10, 2011

Lunar Eclipse

During the Jaahiliyyah, people used to believe that eclipses happened to mark the birth or death of a great person, but the Messenger of Allaah SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) declared this belief to be false and explained the divine wisdom behind the occurrence of eclipses:


Imaam al-Bukhaari and Muslim narrated that Ibn Mas’ood al-Ansaari said: “the sun was eclipsed the day Ibraaheem the son of the Messenger of Allaah SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) died, and the people said, ‘The sun is eclipsed because of the death of Ibraaheem.’ The Messenger of Allaah SAWS (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘The sun and the moon are two signs from Allaah, and they do not become eclipsed for the death or the birth of anyone. If you see that, hasten to remember Allaah and to pray.’”

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Allaah causes eclipses to happen to these two mighty signs, the sun and the moon, to teach His slaves and show them that these things are created and are subject to imperfections and changes just like any other created entities. Thus He shows them His perfect ability and that He alone is deserving of worship, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And from among His Signs are the night and the day, and the sun and the moon. Prostrate yourselves not to the sun” nor to the moon, but prostrate yourselves to Allaah Who created them, if you (really) worship Him”

(Fussilat 41:37)


“It is He Who made the sun a shining thing and the moon as a light and measured out for it stages that you might know the number of years and the reckoning. Allaah did not create this but in truth. He explains the Ayaat in detail for people who have knowledge.” [Yoonus 10:5]


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Friday, December 02, 2011

Some people want it all.... I just don't wanna fall......(in the pit of hell, May He Forgive and Protect us..Ameen)

Don't need to be organized just need to be clean
Don't need to be wealthy just need to be heedful of your duty before Allah and the rights over you
Don't need to be educated but need to be hardworking
Don't need to have extensive Islamic knowledge but need to practice what you know and desire to keep increasing
Don't need to be popular or well known but the company you keep needs to be among those that truly remember the Meeting with their Lord
Don't need to be articulate but need to do what you say and give weight to your words
Don't need to be interesting just need to be true (ie not exaggerate/attention seekers at any expense/negative)
Don't need to be rich but need to control desires and spend within your means
Dont need to own a house but need to consciously choose to not want to battle Allah (ie be involved in interest)
Don't need to have it all but need not waste what you have
Don't need to be a comedian/joker but need to know how to smile and be Pleased with the blessings you are given
Don't need to have charm but need to have good manners
Dont need to be perfect but need to be truthful to constantly be striving towards perfection

Sunday, November 27, 2011

Logic entails that the louder one is the better the listener can hear. However, in actuality it's the whisper that has the listener's attention. Despite passion behind words, it takes the whisper's breeze to effect the mind for violent winds only trigger an automatic in-built storm board installation
- me

Saturday, November 26, 2011

I just want a simple man that wants Jannah
Truly, sincerely loves the truth and holds it down like a solja'
I'm tired of all 'em jokers
Bearded or not
Whethre it's a thobe and a kufi you rock
Doesn't mean you love the deen
It just means you love the clean that you're in
And I can't seem to judge it
Where's the middle line in all of it?
I'm not talking about perfection by no means am I that selection
I'm just talking about sincere
I really do wanna make it there
I need him that's struggling and not constantly trying to find loop holes
Trying to use the religion to justify lowly desires, poor decisions, or a weak role
I don't need that
Just straight goods - keep it real - strive 'til death makes you alive
It takes dedication and hard work to make anything work
But you gotta be true to the cause otherwise you're another clause
There's this fine print I seem to always miss
The one that says I come before anyone else, ya hear me miss?
Yah I'm hearing you, another " I - own , I - matter, I - don't care as long I got what I need, I - I - I "
I'M TIRED OF IT!
The selfish putting claim as the righteous
Haven't you heard..?
....   "So keep your duty to Allah and fear Him as much as you can; listen and obey; and spend in charity, that is better for yourselves. And whosoever is saved from his own covetousness, then they are the successful ones." (Quran 64-16)
I'm a lil militant in my thinking
That doesn't mean I'm down with killing
Though I don't support the bully's beating
And suggest you abort the mentality by rising above his insecurity ..

I'm actually talking about the concept of our Owner
If we understand our position in relation to the Creator
We'll learn to understand, "I hear and obey"
Not neglecting the lil things
For the Pleasure of Creator is only to be attained by submitting to His Commands
And by that it means if your tie is silk you need to use it for your curtain instead of your noose
If your abaya is tight you need to get a new size that's loose
If your money is right you gotta let it go and purify
If your can't afford to be ballin' you better take a step back and give the bank a slap
If you wanna be living right the only solution is to fight the fight
Weapons are knowledge used to increase in good deeds, with righteousness in sight
Losers are us that choose to submit to the pressure of society
Who are we trying please? Let's correct the mentality
Freedom is in submission
And submission is understanding the relation between creation to His Master
Owner of all, we beg of your Mercy, in prostration we fall....
Ya Allah Forgive us all.. Ameen!
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NOTE: For non-silk attractive ties ($32), go to http://www.jaanj.com/ (no excuses!! eh) - Obey on Command!

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

 'Abdullaah bin Mas'ood:
 "Accept the truth even if it's conveyed to you by a layman or someone you dislike. And shun the lie even if it's conveyed to you by someone you love and respect."
 [al-Fawaa-id p. 217]

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

The Great Deception

Instead of saying "I'm lazy" we say "I'm busy"
Instead of saying "I'm broke" we say "I'm simple"
Instead of saying "I'm sorry" we say "It wasn't me!"
Instead of saying "I'm fat" we say "I'm curvy or thick"
Instead of saying "I'm weak" we say "Life is short, live it up"
Instead of saying "I'm selfish" we say "It's my life"
Instead of counting our blessing we say "Why is God trying to punish me?"
Instead of aiming towards bettering ourselves we say "I am who I am"
Instead of speaking the truth we say "I'm using discretion for the GREATER good"
Instead of rising to the test we say "Life is hard, I'm depressed"
Instead of controlling our tongue we say "I'm independent, I have my own opinions"
Instead of not being wasteful with our money we say "It's mine, I can do what I want"
Instead of upholding our responsibilities we say "hey it's more than I had"
Instead of looking at our own faults we say "did you see what such and such did?"
Instead of admitting our wrongs we say "you don't understand"
Instead of being happy we say "if only I had ..."
Instead of building lives we're breaking down ourselves
The deception lies within us first regardless of how religious we look, how often we pray, or how much people like us
If we don't learn to confess to the reality of our state
We'll be left dumbfounded by the promise of our eternal resting place
It starts now
It starts with our self
It stays there and the rest will come; clear and sincere (Insha'Allah)

Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Truth and Justice they go hand in hand
The weapon of a warrior
Obeys on command
By righteousness does he stand
Upright,even if it be against himself
Steadfast in patience, encompassed by true wealth
"Who is it that could be an army for you to aid you other than the Most Merciful?" (Quran - 67:20)
I implore you to question the purpose of creation
Step first by internal investigation
Time is ticking
Minds are sticking
Know maintaining truth and justice is part of the test
It's not just bowing your head but upholding what's best
Fear none but the One Witnessing
You are the witnessed
Stay steadfast and be blessed! (Insha'Allah)

Monday, November 07, 2011

Pray Hard!! *

Don't sell your soul to the devil - you need not
God will Provide, but you forgot
No need to doubt that!
Worshipping the ideas of social standing, how is that?
Don't lower your standard to thinking success if found in that
You got gold don't turn it in for what fools hold
Turn your mind back to Him and do as you're told
Don't be a coward to your soul
Times are getting harder, we're slippin' unless we keep it tight like coal
Burn our flesh but we remain whole
Worship He Alone and forgo the chase ; it's a hard roll
I feel the tension when I see what society has chose
I try to keep it real but it's hard knowing where this trial goes
Pray for my progeny and my own soul to know
Dear God, All Power and Might belong to you Alone
Make us firm, for I know we ain't got the strength to get through this even full grown
It's a struggle to see truth from lie
To stand up against what most question, "why?"
Livin' in times foretold; I'm feeling it
My heart is shook, I'm seeing it
I'm afraid I may overlook
O' Master, The One, make us firm, teach us, strengthen us by Your Book
Don't let us sell our soul to devil
Who has us worshipping ideas or making moves that are only socially driven
Keep it real, pray hard, these times are a given ...

Saturday, November 05, 2011

My Sweettooth

You get the box mix
And you get the 'made from scratch' fix
One's about quantity
The other is about quality
I'm looking for the 'original recipe' type
Not the made from a box hype
At first glance and at first taste they both seem fine
But after some time ...
You get a taste of fake in the 'ready made' make
It's not about the icing or the sprinkles
'Cause when it rains that's the first that disappears
It's gotta be made with the right substance for it to remain as it appears
The one worth your while will be known at first bite
But it'll only allow a select few; the committed within its right
It's about integrity and standard
It's about it's natural purpose vs fast and worthless
One is after truth and the other is after attention
I'm after the one with sincere dedication
The most expensive and the best of it's kind
Is a tasty and finely crafted find
That's the type I'm looking for ; the rare score
That I'm willing greet it's worth with my core
Beautiful to me
For the truth within it, is all I'll see!

Thursday, November 03, 2011

Anyone who complains about the test life has brought
Has done themselves two wrongs . . .
They've lost the lesson the test has taught
And they've lost the blessings meant to be sought
There's no other opportunity in life to grow the way you grow through a test
It's hard road is designed to make us our best
There's this incredible beauty behind it
Such as, our capacity is known to Him Alone, although many times we choose to deny it
Yet in it's midst we're humbled to realize
Where our priorities truly lie
Sometimes it takes hypocrisy within to break us, before it is able to make us
Other times we can clearly recognize the signs and rise against the dust
Often when the wind blows over and we catch a glimpse of our reflection
We find ourselves staring back at a different state of creation
If we understood patience is enjoining good regardless of the emotions attached
Then we're staring back at a polished diamond, cleansed, without any scratch
If we choose to take what appears the easy way out, where whispers and emotions dictate our road
Then we're staring back at a diamond discolouring, losing it's clarity; it's value no longer does it hold
At the end of the day, if you choose to to contemplate you'll realize where the benefit lies
And you'll force yourself to submit and sincerely try
..... There's good in all, just keep your cup half full
At some point in life every being will fall
The point is to turn back to Him, Who Controls all
He Knows despite what others say
He's got you covered - make today, a new day!
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SEEKING REFUGE FROM EVILS AS-SAHEEHAH (no. 3137):

Imaam at-Tabaraanee reported in „ad-Du`aa·‟ (3/1425/1339) from a hadeeth of Aboo Hurairah -
radiyallaahu 'anhu - who said:

"From his  supplications was:

[O Allaah! I seek Your refuge from having an evil neighbour, and from having a wife who turns my hair grey before the time of grey hair, and from having a child who is a lord over me, and from wealth which becomes a punishment upon me, and from having a close friend who is deceitful: whose eye watches me and his heart is mindful of me: such that if he sees something good from me he conceals it, and if he sees something evil from me he broadcasts it.]"

[Shaikh al-Albaanee -rahimahullaah- said: "This chain of narration is good..."]

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[Translated by Aboo Talhah Daawood ibn Ronald Burbank]

Quote of the week:

"In spite of the difficulities that "may" occur in the path of loving one another, love does not hurt". "Love is not painful, deceitful or manipulative"!


Sunday, October 30, 2011

It's to me I speak

It's really hard to reach your potential
Without the support of a righteous, loving individual
Normally that entails your spouse
For they are aware of your weaknesses and your bouts
They're able to refute your retort
Before you become blameworthy for magnifying your worth
It's that time where we're barely making it
If we look deep we'd probably recognize that most of the time we're faking it
It a struggle to stay sincere, for the path of light is being blurred by our own darkness
Our own weakness
Where we succumb to the mentalities around us
And though it doesn't feel like it should be our fault, it really is
We've got guidance, but we're too selfish to acknowledge the truth
I speak to myself before I speak to you
I know I NEED to do better but I've got every excuse
Complaining instead of maintaining, whining instead of timing
It's no one to blame but ourselves
It's no one to fix but ourselves
Its start is from within and stays that way
If our focus drifts our hearts will sway
The message spreads like wild fire when the inside is not a liar
It's the toughest battle to be beat
An upright condition of our hearts we need to seek

.......... It's to me I speak
     .......... It's to me I speak

Thursday, October 27, 2011

What's your objective?

What's your objective I wish you'd say
Understand your thoughts, I encourage you not to delay
We live wandering unsure of our moves
There's no point in doing it, if you don't know why you do what you do

So ask yourself, every 'lil while
What's the objective?
What am I trying to achieve , what I am I hoping to receive?
It's crucial that we keep ourselves in check
Everyday needs to be a day to reflect
If we don't, we leave an open door for Shaytaan to whisper
He's an open enemy to the believer
If you deny this reality you're denying the truth from the All Seer
Protect your heart and home from the evil creeper
Know your mind and purify your heart
"Successful is he who purifies himself" (1)
The Quran speaks wisdom; let's apply to self
"Woe to he who recites but does not contemplate" (2)
Even the Prophets used to meditate
We need to learn to condition ourselves to be reflective
So, I ask again... what's your objective?
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(1)
Indeed whosoever purifies himself shall achieve success" ( Quran 87:14)


(2)
Verily! In the creation of the heavens and the earth, and in the alternation of night and day, there are indeed signs for men of understanding.

Those who remember Allah (always, and in prayers) standing, sitting, and lying down on their sides, and think deeply about the creation of the heavens and the earth, (saying): "Our Lord! You have not created (all) this without purpose, glory to You! (Exalted be You above all that they associate with You as partners). Give us salvation from the torment of the Fire.

Surah al-Imran: 190-191



The below is extracted from ibn Katheer's tafseer of the above ayah.

وقال الحسن عن عامر بن عبد قيس، قال: سمعت غير واحد ولا اثنين ولا ثلاثة من أصحاب النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يقولون: إن ضياء الإيمان أو نور الإيمان التفكر


Aamir ibn Abd Qais stated," I heard more than one, two or three of the Companions of the Prophet (SAW) say, "The lamp of faith or the light of faith is al-tafakkur (contemplation and reflection.)


Ibn Marduwyah recorded that `Ata' said, "I, Ibn `Umar and `Ubayd bin `Umayr went to `A'ishah and entered her room, and there was a screen between us and her. She said, `O `Ubayd! What prevents you from visiting us'

He said, `What the poet said, `Visit every once in a while, and you will be loved more.' Ibn `Umar said, `Tell us about the most unusual thing you witnessed from the Messenger of Allah .' She cried and said, `All his matters were amazing. On night, he came close to me until his skin touched my skin and said, `Let me worship my Lord.' I said, `By Allah I love your being close to me. I also love that you worship your Lord.' He used the water-skin and performed ablution, but did not use too much water. He then stood up in prayer and cried until his beard became wet. He prostrated and cried until he made the ground wet. He then laid down on his side and cried. When Bilal came to alert the Prophet for the Dawn prayer, he said, `O Messenger of Allah! What makes you cry, while Allah has forgiven you your previous and latter sins' He said,


«وَيْحَكَ يَا بِلَالُ، وَمَا يَمْنَعُنِي أَنْ أَبْكِيَ، وَقَدْ أُنْزِلَ عَلَيَّ فِي هذِهِ اللَّيْلَة»


(O Bilal! What prevents me from crying, when this night, this Ayah was revealed to me,)


[إِنَّ فِى خَلْقِ السَّمَـوَتِ وَالاٌّرْضِ وَاخْتِلَـفِ الَّيْلِ وَالنَّهَارِ لاّيَـتٍ لاٌّوْلِى الاٌّلْبَـبِ ]



(Verily, in the creation of the heavens and the earth, and in the alternation of night and day, there are indeed signs for men of understanding.)

«وَيْلٌ لِمَنْ قَرَأَهَا وَلَمْ يَتَفَكَّرْ فِيهَا»


(Woe to he who recites it but does not contemplate it.).''



Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Ah how I miss you
The greenery of your warm embrace
The sweet smell upon your every resting place
The time we kicked it together
In the company of the likes of each other
No animosity or hatred
In truth we were bound together, submitted; it was sacred
How I miss you..
Your beauty none can surpass
The comfort and peace that no amount of wealth can ever amass
I know we aren't meant to be separated for so long
I know we'll be united again; in your warmth I belong
It's going to take an effort or I'd risk losing out on the opportunity
Prayers, charity, duty - submitting, faithful and willing
Seeking the reward of the All Knowing
How I miss you
My first home ... P-A-R-A-D-I-S-E pray for my return
Your perfection, your Promise of Allah's Protection ; you, how I yearn!

 

I got burned enough times to start feelin' heat before the fire
I heard enough lies to start sensing the tongue from the unsuspected liar
I fallen one too many times to put my trust in any other than my Protector
I've seen how falsehood destroys to come to cherish and love truth
I've watched how selfish deploys to come to resent its abuse
But despite all life has taught
And that knowledge is experience before it's sought
I realize that my confidence is a disguise
And in trying to let go, the more I don't know
My mind rests, assured, and knowing
That I know nothing of anything
Truly learning the beauty of placing my trust in Him
Trying, though not free from faulting
Submitting, though ever in need of Forgiving

Sunday, October 23, 2011

If you ask me my standing know that I am a ...

Servant of my Master
Laborer for my children
Queen of my thoughts
Owner of nothing
Stranger to the world
Solider for the hereafter
Shield for my soul
Dagger for my heart
Controlled by He Alone
In His Name I begin, in His name I part (Insha'Allah)

Friday, October 21, 2011

It's Not Enough!

It's not enough to love it if you don't hate the reverse of it ...

I'm not talking about the people for we are all ever changing
I'm talking about values, their worth is never degressing
    You can't claim to love honesty and not want know the truth
    You can't claim to love integrity and be one to let loose
    You can't claim to love consideration when you're selfish in your relations
    You can't claim to love modesty when your actions are in arrogance

It's not enough to hate if you don't love the reverse of it ...

I'm not talking about the people for we are all ever changing
I'm talking about honor, it's value established at our hardest hour
    You can't claim to hate slander when you choose to do it in your anger
    You can't claim to hate showing off when you choose to do it when people scoff
    You can't claim to hate anger when you choose release for a false sense of power
    You can't claim to hate a liar when you use it to justify actions or avoid your self inflicted fire(s)


It's the hypocrisy within us all; that constantly needs to be checked. We aren't void of error but our wrongs aren't justified by blaming one another. It's upon us to dig within us, and go deeper. Correct our wrongs and not allow lessons in life to break us but make us stronger! Insha'Allah

Everything in life has a lesson ...

Don't allow another to justify their disrespect towards you by acting in a similar manner or worse. Rise above and teach the ignorant through kindness. Or turn away and ignore the arrogant with dignity.
 - me


(taken from the example of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him)

Monday, October 17, 2011

We were raised with the ideal even if we came from a home which wasn't that. Hard lessons teach us to keep it real, even though society is still chasing after that. I've learned to understand that even if I bought the whole world I cannot make the wrongs inflicted upon the wronged right. I cannot fix the mistakes that leave others in a difficult place, because I am not the one in control. At one point I thought I could at least try to make it better, attempt for the "next best thing" but this I also realized isn't in firm standing. Just as you cannot make a wolf eat a flower instead of the little rabbit shivering beneath it's power, you cannot make the blind see his reflection or the deaf hear his voice.....it's not in my control. For some reason I was born with this fire to make right what seems wrong, this yearning desire that if I try, if I really really try it'll be alright. But ...it's not in my control. What might appear good may not be and so really I don't own true reality, I just submit knowing the All Knowing is taking care of me. My duty is where I land, if I'm pardoned early for death to take my hand, I welcome that stand provided HE is Pleased with me. At one point I wasn't sure if I'd like to go Home, leaving behind those that I thought I own. Though I carried them for 9 months and a scar remains forever upon me they remain a duty. And so when I'm called back to the Almighty, I know they'll be safe, and He'll appoint for them a better place even if it isn't the ideal. And it'd be a lie if I said that I'd cry from my depth if they parted from me to a blissful eternity because that's a dream come true. That's the objective to have my babies for eternity, peacefully, so what's the true reality of the love of a mother? And if God willed for them to die later, I pray it's only to increase them in honor. The ideal of being the sole source of joy or affection to one man, is not even up for discussion. The concept is beyond me now, I don't even see how that can be ideal even in fiction it remains a contradiction. But I remain with the reality of my duty, so yes a single mother I'll always be. There's no making that "right" or fixing the wrong, it's just strength God will send down (Insha'Allah). Though I have a lot to learn in this vast world, the touch of knowledge that has caressed me is one that I hold on to firmly. I've held enough doors open to know a woman is her own Queen. I've let go of enough friendships to know that by attaching yourself you'll only suffer the glitch. I've thrown enough fits and spoken enough words to know that I don't control the heart of any being. I've walked enough roads to know what you're told isn't worth a gram of gold. I've looked in enough eyes of a child to realize that I have three that's my primary responsiblity and that I will not let any human dare take that from me; regardless of where they stand in position to me. I remain answerable to ONE, duty bound to some but never at the expense of what God has left within my hands, within my control. There will come a time I must let go, the results unknown....not in my control. So I trek through life.....duty bound and no more. That's the objective, the goal, the path, my role, and if I'm graced with the opportunity to be a wife that's the stance I take. Until I get HOME, where the "ideal" is mine, I'm gonna keep it real, and know in the end Insha'Allah with His Guidance, I'll be fine!

Saturday, October 15, 2011

The epitome of love, for either oneself or others is to sincerely be concerned for your or their hereafter; even to the extent of scarificing oneself in attempts to acheive the best of it.
- me


Friday, October 14, 2011

What's happening to the world that we're livin'
Open prostitution and ain't nobody blinkin'
Worse than a whore
Now it's about keepin' score
I cannot imagine the Creator being Pleased with His Creation
Challenging His every command in the name of 'liberation'
All it is now is just "religion"
When you're "ready" then go be a pigeon
What happened to submission?
How did this all turn upside down, making obedience an option
What was sent as a purification, a guidance for creation
Is no longer viewed as its perfection
Good made to be evil, and evil made to be good
It's like the Dajjal is already upon us, deceiving us, making us a fool
And it's all good 'cause society makes us feel "cool"
It's a deceptive reality
What is, isn't actuality
We're just getting worse
Days are numbered, we're living the last years ...
... I ain't got the words
Let's just open the Quran and contemplate a verse


May Allah bestow is infinite Mercy upon us, may He Forgive us ALL, strengthen us , guide us, protect us, show us the straight way, the way on which He has bestowed His Grace not of whose portion is wrath...... AMEEN.. AMEEN.. AMEEN YA RABI!!

Thursday, October 13, 2011

O ' Enemy of Mine

I write to you O'enemy
For I don't want you to have any part of me
So I begin, O'Shaytaan
What have you done now that you spend eternity trying to inflict harm?
Was it too much, you had to give in to your ego?
Was it worth it spending your life's work tryin' to be your own hero?
Really though, look at how you chose to go
Been gifted by He, Graced in a land of eternity
But it wasn't enough, you've given up your serenity
Aimin' in trying to breed animosity
Spreading evil through a society by making good seem an atrocity
And I ask myself, what's become of us?
Entwined within our hearts is jealousy and nafs
"Want for your brother what you want for yourself"
Successful is he saved from his own greed, his own needs
Shaytaan missed this one and its results are thus
Empty in the soul for it's sold to hold the world's gold
Knowing full well though, there isn't anything in comparison to what's been told
The Paradise an unimaginable site, yah I'd hate to miss out on that too
So I get why you do what you feel gotta do
If you gonna be a hate'a you're doing a fine job of it
Spinning whispers of anger, the attention hungry, stolen wealthy; desires plenty
Limitations are upon the believers for this life isn't what's to grieve over
What you're offering Shaytaan, ain't seem much when you actually review the cover
It's like a pretty picture, and nothing else when you turn it over
An image embedded in the mind, a lottery card telling you what you'll win
And if you give in?
You'll keep turning it over 'n over again
To find the same thing, looking, to find nothing, forgetting ...
Tricked into the devils lesson
Class 101, take away the ability to think
By this Shaytaan, you guarantee your win to sink
To the pit of the hell
For the lesson is in the devil's wail........it comes in truth ...
Words of the Almighty, plant our roots -"Woe to he to recites but does not contemplate"
Make it your goal, make it your fate.
O' enemy of mine, you can't touch me for Power belongs entirely to the Almighty
Your mirage is a broken glass
For it's truth remains and falsehood will never last!

Sunday, September 11, 2011

Seize It!

Each and every day passes us
End'a time; it's going fast enough
Everyday brings a lesson
The mind needs to question
And so I ask, what am I to learn?
Days are gone, what do I truly yearn?
I find myself in a mix of up and down
Forcing myself to 'hold it down'
And I don't mean I'm trying to clown
But I want it to be a productive life
Not to end in strife
But a 'want' isn't enough to call it an action
Sometimes it's a desire that only holds the conscience's attraction
No more than stalling the mind . . .

Everyday has a lesson
We need to constantly question
Life's works has reason
Seize it to Please Him

Thursday, August 25, 2011

It's the nemesis of our own arm
Inflicting our own harm
World in chaos , suffering it's own loss
Self destructing
Past is reconstructing
Overview of the Thamud and 'Aad
Overview of the Firaun and Nuh's Ark
Depths of destruction, flooded and shook
The people mistook
Their arrogance lead to depths of negligence
Their defiance lead them to their own death sentence
Put out with the lightening and thunder; Who Controls It? .. Don't you wonder?
Put out by an explosive nature, who Who Owns it?.. The Creator!
Rebelliousness was their nature
The past is suppose to be lessons for the future
But the future chose to get stupider
Ignorancee vast in an ocean of accessible knowledge
What excuse is left that is worthy to be acknowledged?
Dumb chose dumber
Weak chose weaker
Strength chose arrogance
And we remain pleading ignorance
Does it even make any sense?
It's the nemesis of our own arm
Inflicting our own harm
So when you see it strike, know you chose your plight
You picked this fight
And ALL Success belongs to HE
Who Controls every entity
Ya Raabi, Protect us from Your Wrath
For Your Punishment is indeed extreme and harsh!


Wednesday, August 17, 2011

"Look whats going on in the world...tragic ends and calamities"
Soliders fighting for fun, enjoying killin' made-up enemies
Wars waged and no end in sight
Fighting for land, death their only plight
Crime increasing, greedy for living
Purposeless opinions, designed to divide unions
Cries of stress are now screaming
Hunger a crisis, the world stopped seeing
Blood shed a reality, stories now aren't even moving
Too much turmoil , the world's still snoozing
Caught up in their "lives" , tryin' make it before one dies
Caught up in the 'lies', strivin' thinking it's all right
Caught up in the fight, narcissist thinkin' he's in the right
Weakness of man getting weaker
Corruption penetrating a veins, getting deeper
Isolating the mind, the disease is stronger
Controlled to see one way, the soul assigned to an evil keeper
Distracted by the media
Drowning out the truth, just you and wikipedia
Blinded by the strayed view,so you stay confused
Relish in your group, their views you root
Blankin' out the ability to contemplate, it's easier to just hate
Why over think it, there's enough out there, just tryin' to 'make it'
System malfunticon , corruption detected
Overload of dung, the stench permeates masses being selected
No one saved from the clutch of society
Unless they hold on tight to piety
Sincerely within their ability
Mindful of the Almighty
Seeing the reality
Bitin' down, fighting against immorality
Values and views not compatibile with society
Understanding who rules, entering the rightous hierarchy
Truth your tools, you're strivin' for eternity
Lose the fools
And you've earned your victory

Monday, August 08, 2011

She Shall Maintain

Often times it's struggle when you're on your own
Maybe you've got some family but they can't make the home
You are the mother and father to your children
Often people don't understand the situation
They take it to a cause instead of following the root
They're trying to determine the reason, instead of focusing on the fruit
But that's the nature of man
They can't understand unless they too have been dealt with the same hand
So you remain, emotionally isolated though you're fighting to maintain
Trying to hold on to your dreams for you and your family, even though your situation is no longer the same
It can be an upward battle
Grouped together like a herd of cattle
So you ask yourself, what path must I take?
Successful is she who makes moves for Allah's sake
Your eyes may be wet in silent tears
But it's The All Hearing, The All Knowing that cures your fears
You can never make another man's wrongs right
You can only purify, perfect and rise beyond the eternal fight
Forgive to be Forgiven by He
Strive purposefully with your objective only on eternity
What appears to be
Isn't actually reality
Light in your life and heart only comes by following One Command
Don't be disillusioned to think it's rising to the social demand
I stand with you and direct your hands
Face them upwards towards He Who Controls All, He who Commands
Even if you stand alone, know Allah is Aware, He upon His Mighty Throne!






Thursday, July 28, 2011

Altered Mentality

Don't blame us for our social education
We didn't choose to hear it
We struggle with our roles, it ain't all hormonal
The job of a man, the mind of a woman
How do you expect two to flow in a smooth union?
He let's his duty slide upon her
But he doesn't understand she's got her own work
If he says " well then I'm going to have contribute to her role too"
Make it even, so we work as two
Sufficient as it can be in today's society
But the mind has now altered its natural disposition
No matter how you cut it up, you've divided the situation
It isn't to blame, the he or the she
This is how the times are now, where we've come socially
I wonder if the true existence of our being remains intact fully
Some how I think we've lost a part of humanity
The greed of society decided logic makes more sense
"Team work", both working towards dollars and cents
And so he's forced to see more than he can handle
And she forced to be more than she can handle
Then they come back home and wonder why they struggle
Wonder why they can't seem to see eye to eye
Can't seem to make the necessary sacrifice
Each experiencing a separate life, devil in the mix to separate man and wife
It's social epidemic
The base of our creation no longer systematic
Everybody just trying to "make it"
Question is, where are you tryin' to make it to?
I know the social pressure making us doubt ourselves especially if the hereafter is our endeavour
The stranger remains firm, to be seen no more than the stranger
But give glad tidings, for your life doesn't begin now
Thrills and frills of life- this can't be how!
They call it the "New WORLD Order"
A one mind design, where sacrifice means loving yourself harder
Where love means you need to fight for yourself stronger
Where struggle means you need to live it up larger
Where success means you ain't got'ta barter .. ...
.......Though it all boils down to one question
What's the purpose of our Creation??

Tuesday, July 05, 2011

It's amazing the degree of arrogance in man
To think that he's more Compassionate than Ar Rahman!!!
To determine what is permitted is merely a boundry in Islam
And that the condition of a person with Shaytaan running through their veins are suffering harm
The harm of such condition is not from Islam
No the harm of such condition is the weakness of Iman
And so, you forbid the words of Allah Himself?!
Within the limits of Islam, you fear the harm of the words of the All Knowing to His Creation?
You restrict the Sunnah to a time frame of when Islam had only just become
You neglect the caliphas because your nafs thinks it's insane
The created thinking he has more wisdom than the Creator?!
As if the All Knowing doesn't understand both women and men's nature
Just because you can't comprehend
Doesn't give you the right to limit men
Verses clear
Yet picking and choosing that which keeps you feel secure
How do you make you own deductions based on a limited scope? Just assumptions!
Success alone is with Allah!!
Sakinah only comes from following the words of HIM, along with the authentic Sunnah
The deaf, dumb and blind
Walking around as though they have unseen knowledge of this time
Allah orders in His book, 'wherein you differ refer back to Quran and Sunnah'
But that's considered a black and white mentality
That's considered not using wisdom, because you seem to think you've got a clear reality
Now how can that be if your test isn't the same as me?
Have you walked in the footsteps of a wife knowing the feeling of a woman?
Have you marched forth after being abused by others nafs because what Islam allowed they themselves made forbidden?
For fear of society
Have you felt the pain of a broken family due to major sin, when there's an option which makes it a win-win?
You put the opinons of man above the Almighty
Justify your stance with a righteous assumption of yourself
People can't play it out in their head
Therefore your ability to have tawaqil is dead
You're suppose to rule according to our God Given tools
It's not based on suspicion of how one might be trying to misuse
Within wisdom and perfection this religion was established
The permissibility stated and the conditions applied to it
Yet without knowledge words are spoken
Arrogance among the tongue of someone unjust unable to see his own condition
Unable to realize his words are poison for they're against what ALLAH Has chosen
But I am reminded that I am only accountable for myself
So I must maintain my dignity and uphold my duty
Though I dismiss this mentality, even if you label me as a "salafi"

Monday, July 04, 2011

What's the beauty of Khadijah...



She had the past with her to make her stronger... to make her wiser
She understood the needs of her man, that made him long her
She supported him in truth, she upheld her honor
Her children a reflection of her
Strength in their core
She was the communities envy
Sought after by many
But she rejected their approach
For she knew the worth of a man didn't come with his notes
Widowed, and divorced ; shaped by life's course
Gave it all up, for what she knew was truth
Held it down for she knew it's worth
Wisdom was her legacy
What's the beauty of Khadijah ...
Successful and beautiful yet she yearned only for the truthful
Experience in her dealings gave her the eye to clearly see things
Peace be upon her, greetings sent directly from the Angel Gibraeel
Her worth, a reflection of her sincere work
Her support, her love, her dedication makes her a lesson in our relations
She moved gracefully, like a Queen
Held it down faithfully, like a soldja
Nurtured her bounties, the best mother
Supported her husband, a loyal worker, the sweetest cover
Gave them comfort, like a cushion, the greatest luxury on earth
She didn't complain, she worked like team, together they maintained
She was a 'woman' in every sense of the word
She knew her duty, she knew the worth of her role
She understood that her position was crucial
She knew the of title of mother and wife is lethal
Making her a woman not forgotten to this day
Making others jealous of her even though she passed away
Making her a wife in who's husband heart she always stayed; honoring her even when in peace she lay
Making her a mother, with firmly rooted seeds, who's progeny reached perfection; a leader in eternity
She understood her role
She understood her worth
What's the beauty of Khadijah you say..
She was one of few females to reach perfection through the tawakil she displayed
An example of true dedication, her story relayed ..
June 30- 2011

Thursday, June 23, 2011

MUST.. MUST.. MUST WATCH!!!

This covers so many things we don't even realize.. .. plz watch!

The Issue of Lying which we think is not a Lie - Sh. Abu Usamah

Sunday, May 29, 2011

Masha'Allah.. this is brilliant.. listen to the WHOLE thing... subhan'Allah!!........
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4yszyHr07vU

Friday, April 15, 2011

In pursuit of happiness...

As I watch the world I see a trend, often it's not about trying to blend as some may see it. It seems to be a little more complex, a lil more believing. It's the " I " wondering how they can survive and what makes them more alive, looking for a path, a drive, but often just chasing an empty space within the walls of the world. It's not so much a rat race, it's more like an empty face, broken pace, a sorry waste ......... of time! And though yes this seems like nothing more than a rhyme it's actually meant to cause you to open at least one eye. It's almost as though as humanity we're sleep walking into what goes beyond vanity. It's what they call a "pursuit of happiness" , what exactly is this? This quest the entire world is obsessed with, not realizing at its best within you, it's passing this test.........this test called life. Fools may sing this is 'THE life', this is it! But hold on a minute, just think a bit. Would you consider this a cause to be created, to enjoy a life of everyone being hated, or evil needing to be abated. Surely this ain't it .. let it sit. Because if you seize to ask questions you'll remain a lost lesson. Rolling in the material you'll be void of the real, resulting in the loss of the very thing you desire most. Success at its best, at its finest, is happiness. Why fight it, when you can't honestly deny it.........find it, it's there, closer to you then you dare. Not too far off, just move a lil over, forgo the four leaf clover and turn a new leaf over. I told ya..........it's within you, if you want it ......... question is ....... do you?





Saturday, March 05, 2011

Tuesday, March 01, 2011


lol... I love this!!.. Say it like it is sista!!! Say it like it is!!! :) She stole my words!

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

A Peace That Sings



My soul breathes a breath it has never quite taken before
So crisp, so clean, so pure
And a giddy little grin will peak upon my lips
For no particular reason, just a peace within sings so deep
And though the meaning of life’s lesson is upon me now
I can’t help but feel that I know nothing of anything, but to God I remain, to God I bow
Time and time again we search, we befriend but in the end there are things that remain questionable
Should a friend really be so textable?
Really, is there nothing else to do other than keep us entertained
Twitter,or Facebook, Blackberry or Iphone, Google and Amazon E books
It’s all the same really, friends too many
One or two may know me
But never have they given me this feeling I feel
This ease, this lightness upon my chest, this gushing goodness of “man, God is Indeed The Best!”
Why? some may ask. Wasn’t that a test?
Yes, but a test is only a question mark away from a reward
Will you submit to that which you cannot control? Or will your choice be hard, and dramatic turmoil?
I resolve with, I need not fight if I have the angels fighting for me
I will not wander blindly when I have light making a way clearly
I will not speak ill of what’s meant to be, when I have the All Knowing watching over me
I will not be among the ungrateful, before I become alone just me and me
My life is a breath of fresh air for which I pray lasts until I return home
Though fears I have, it’s not something any human can console
For words don’t come when I try to speak it, just thoughts and only God Knows the Meanings
So I stop here.
Praising the All Knowing, The All Wise
Hoping for the best, fearing my weaknesses and begging for success!

Saturday, February 19, 2011

O Believing Men - A reminder

Upon reading the article - Homely Homemaking Homebodies? Why the Quran Commands Muslim Women: "Stay in Your Homes" by Sadaf Farooqi,  I noticed there were many comments. Though I did not go through them, I did read a few which lead me to write this article that I have entitled:


O Believing Men - A reminder
“And remind, for indeed, the reminder benefits the believers.” [Quran: 51: 55]

Autho billahi min ash shaytaan al rajeem Bismillah Al Rahman Al Raheem!


So I begin with this, the most powerful reminder :

You shall see them, as they are brought face to face with the chastisement, in a state of abject humiliation, looking with a furtive glance. But the believers will say: “Surely the true losers are they who lose themselves and their kindred on the Day of Resurrection.” Lo, the wrong-doers will be in an enduring torment. [Ash-Shura 42:25]

Gender roles is an issue that seems to be in chaos, what was deemed as "natural" in the past is now considered nothing but "traditional oppression". It seems gender roles has drastically changed throughout the ages with the commencement of the 'Women's Liberation Movement'. Dating back to the early 18th century came the first glimpse of the feminist movement spurred by middle or upper-class white women in search of political equality. The climax of the feminist mentality saturated itself in the 1980's-1990's; this reform campaign altered all forms of social standards -religious, familial, political, professional etc.

"And enjoin on one another goodness towards women; verily they are married to you: you have no power over them at all unless they come in for a flagrantly filthy action; but if they are devoted to you, then seek no way against them. And verily, you have rights over your women, and they have rights over you." [Tirmidhi ]

As a result of an attempt for progression we found ourselves in the other extreme; regression! It is clear to many the instinctive nature women have; rearing children, their home, their family life. A task that in today's world is immensely underrated, deemed almost as "unaccomplished" if it is ones sole livelihood. However, in the rage of change and a distinct need for human rights initiated by women we are left questioning, what has happened to the men? What are their roles and who have they become?

Islam outlines our gender roles in astounding perfection. It encompasses our nature as males and females; acknowledging our God Given strengths and weaknesses.

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allaah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allaah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband’s absence what Allaah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity and their husband’s property). As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next) refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allaah is Ever Most High, Most Great” [al-Nisa’ 4:34]

We as men and women have been placed on this earth for the same purpose (to worship One God and associate no partners to Him), but with entirely different roles. Lets break this down from a visual that we are familiar with in the modern world. Allah subhanhu wa tala has given the man the sole responsibility to provide for his family food, clothes and shelter. Man is given the responsibility to see that his family receives secular and Islamic education. He is given the responsibility of leading his family towards Jannah. He is given the responsibility of protecting his wife, his children, his sisters, his parents; kith and kin. He is given the responsibility if the need arises to physically denfend Islam for the sake of Allah subhanhu wa tala or in our current state to accomplish this mentally and/or verbally. He is given the responsibility to socially serve Al-Islam (ie. Daw'ah, helping the needy, neighbours etc.). Women have the responsibility of obeying her husband, guarding their property, teaching his children, and safe guarding herself (maintaining modesty). Not to say a woman should not help the needy, be good to her neighbours, keep relations between kith and kin etc. but her duty remains mainly within the home. Now compare them! Is it not clearly noticeable through Islamic rights that women carry a lesser burden but equally meaningful? We as a whole Ummah have messed up the system!

A man in Islam has been given the role of the Amir; the leader of his household. Brothers do not under-estimate this responsibility! You have been given the rights in order for you to fulfill great responsibilities! It is upon the man to make sure that he lives up to his responsibility and it is for the woman to ease that burden by complying to that which he requires done and/or needs. You cannot run a school without a Principle, you cannot win a war without a Sergeant, you cannot aim for a 'touch-down' without a game plan that others also have to follow through with ... It is the man's responsibility and right to create that 'game plan' and oversee its execution is correctly conducted. If he does not do that then he too bears the failure along with his players.

A wise man knows that in order to be successful in his duties he should learn to adopt 'mutual consultation' - or 'team work'. A manly man, or a 'man' in all essence of the word is not one that should be able to bench press 350 lbs then expect his wife to haul in all the groceries, go to work, see to the children and that's it for him; 9-5pm is all he is willing to contribute towards his family - towards his Akhira. If that was the case what would be the point in having a man around? This is a mentality contributing to divorce on the rise along with many sisters simply uninterested in marriage wa Allahu Alim. The Prophet (peace be upon him) was reported to have helped in household affairs. If any man stood in the shoes of a woman for a day and completed the tasks that it takes to make a home run smooth, clean and Islamic he would understand the value in aiding her. By helping her, he helps his children and by helping his children he is fulfilling his responsibilities of leading them away from the fire (Insha'Allah), therefore securing himself with His Creator Insha'Allah. Plus it creates love within the home and each other. A home is not a 'one man' show. It is not for the man to call the shots and a woman to be void of her needs and rights. Nor is it for a woman to be "independent" and a man to be purposeless and disrespected. There is a fine, delicate, beautiful balance that Islam sets for us. Yet we have gone way beyond these, as a result the consequences are astounding social ills!

If a woman is not home and she is the second breadwinner, then who is caring for the children? Who is imparting the knowledge that they need to be righteous Muslims? Who is mentoring the children to help them understand the world around them without it sucking them up and stripping them of their souls? If a man is comfortable with his wife working to provide for herself, interacting with other men, neglecting the household affiars, losing his respect in the home then how can he feel sure that he is fulfilling his God given responsibilities? How can both spouses be a comfort for one another when the whispering of Shaytaan has the husband holding the door wide open? In the end of the day the burden will also still lie upon the man because Allah subhanhu wa tala gave Him the duty and the rights to fulfill his task - the ball is in his hands!

“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. And Allaah is All-Mighty, All-Wise” [al-Baqarah 2:228]

It is a heavy burden brothers! Even still, one too many brothers are very comfortable in not taking the responsibility of financially maintaining or sheltering or ensuring the household is heading in the right direction. In fact many men in our 'progressive age' expect their wives to contribute to the household financially, as though it is upon her to do so. Too many brothers are failing in their responsibilities to protect their family from the evils of this world and their destruction in the hereafter, too many are simply not bothered therefore do not demand their rights in order to fulfill their responsibilities. Therefore a man is wronging his family due to his failure in fulfiling their basic Islamic rights (food, shelter, clothes,educating them). And in some cases only when it suits him then he demands his rights from his wife.

"O you who have attained to faith! Ward off from yourselves and your families that fire (of the hereafter) whose fuel is Human beings and stones."[Qur’an 66:6]

Along with the adolescent mentalities plaguing our healthy minded adult Muslim community, the "yes dear" syndrome has infiltrated itself into our homes, into it's own form of extremism. All too many of us forget that Islam is a moderate path, we are neither here nor there but rather in the middle. Do not be a tyrant, yet do not be 'whipped' (agree to everything even when it is wrong). Do not be Scrooge (stingy), yet do not be Santa (comply with everyones wishes - naughty or nice), do not be 'Molly Maid' and also do not be a couch potato, do not make your family all you ever do yet do not ignore them or find excuses to be out of the house constantly. Just walk a middle path and you'll find success, Insha'Allah!

"Fear Allah concerning women! Verily you have taken them on the security of Allah, and intercourse with them has been made lawful unto you by words of Allah. You too have rights over them, and that they should not allow anyone to sit on your bed [i.e., not let them into the house] whom you do not like. But if they do that, you can chastise them but not severely. Their rights upon you are that you should provide them with food and clothing in a fitting manner” (Narrated by Muslim, 1218)

Marriage is half our deen not because it sounds nice for you to say that on your wedding day or feel accomplished that you're now married. It is because it carries a heavy weight, you are now entrusted with another person and Insha'Allah children which you will be questioned about on the Day of Judgement. You are entitled to more rights but now others have rights upon you too. You cannot neglect your home and the rights others have upon you yet feel fulfilled as a dutiful Muslim; it is simply not possible. Our religion is an action based religion; it encompsses honor, dignity, truth, justice, kindness all entwined within our worship. It takes sincerity, courage and as with everything great it also requires sacrifice. Success is not within our own mind, it is within the Orders ordained upon us in the hopes that with sincere intention we have earned our seat in Jannatul Firdos.

May Allah subhanhu wa talaa Protect us from the evils of ourselves, man, jinn, and shaytaan, may He forgive us for our sins and give us strength to fulfill our duties...Ameen

May Allah forgive me if I have said anything wrong for all good is from Him alone and wrong/bad is from myself.

Your sister in Islam,


Shireen


References:

What are the rights of the husband and what are the rights of the wife?

http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/10680/husband%20duty

The Ideal Muslim Husband

http://www.missionislam.com/family/husband.htm